We’ve been made to believe that we are born to do something great. The human potential can never be limited. We can achieve great heights, that possibilities are endless. This world offers opportunities that we can hop on and poof we’re successful. Everyone around you tells you you can do it.
If you’re someone who’s been used to achievement at a young age, you very well know that you have a tendency to set the bar high for yourself. You set goals, and you’re used to achieving them.You may have achieved a lot, but what if the so called life happens? Can your intellect still prepare you for the inevitable? Did your books teach you how to cope with life?
When you’ve got no answers to the questions such as “Why did this happen to me?”, that’s when everything starts to fall apart. The innocence of that child in you disappears or hides. Suddenly, you’re not this brave person anymore. The more you fail, the more you beat yourself up. Life looks like a big joke for you especially if you’re used to external affirmation.
But, these things that you’ve been through, make you strong. It changes your perspective. You had a tunnel vision before and suddenly here’s a new you seeing things in a different point of view. Yes, at first you’ll get angry, you might even look for people, things, and circumstances to blame. But when you get through that tough place, you become invincible. No one can put you down, and for the first time in your life, you feel that nothing is impossible.
How do you get back up? First, feel the emotion, cry for heaven’s sake. Express what you are feeling in whatever form you want to. If you hide what you’re feeling, it gets worse and worse. All the devils in your head will exponentially reproduce and the hole will just dig deeper. Tell someone your frustrations. Then, after expressing it, baby steps, start.
Start fresh. Start with the lessons from your past. Recovery has no timetable. Take your time, do what makes you happy and try to be happy gradually. Some days you will fail but at the end of it all, you’ll see that it’s worth it. After that long recovery process, you would have developed confidence.
Feel, recover, and exude confidence.
There is no guarantee that things will be alright. Bad things will happen definitely, but it’s up to you if you will let circumstances beat you. This cycle goes on, you get happy then sad, then happy again. It’s a never ending cycle. If others have been able to achieve their goals against the odds, so can you.
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